Have you ever gotten to a point in your life where things seem like they are not going to change for the better? You’ve tried everything. You’ve given all your strength and nothing seems to improve. This is a place in which many people find themselves at some point in their lives.
It’s easy to get stuck in a place of hopelessness when it seems like you are fighting alone. If you find yourself here today, I ask that you consider these three points as you reflect on your situation.
Find Your Strength
Because we have done everything in our power to overcome, it may feel safer to build up walls and protect ourselves from the difficulty. These walls are a defense mechanism we use to survive pain and hurt. Unfortunately, the comfort and protection we feel behind the walls is not our strength. The guards will only isolate and create a greater hopelessness within us.
It is important to find our strength in the midst of our defeats. What is it that motivates us? What drives us to get up and continue on every morning? This motivation is our strength.
If we are having a hard time identifying strengths, we can lean on scripture. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 NIV says, “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
When we cannot find any strength within all of our hardship, Jesus is there to be our strength. His power is made perfect in our weakness.
What strength do you have that will get you out of your comfort zone? What is one small step you can take?
We may not be able to fix our problems right away but can we make one small step toward a solution? One of the most difficult decisions to make when in a hopeless situation is the decision to choose hope over helplessness. Though the struggle may appear to engulf us, the Bible tells us that “The Lord ‘s unfailing love and mercy still continue, fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise” (Lamentations 3:22-23, GNT).
When we wake up in the morning, do we have to stress or plan for the sun to rise that morning? No! Whether we are ready for it or not, the sun rises on schedule, without any of our efforts. The Bible says that God’s love and mercy will be there. Every morning. This is new, fresh hope, every day. Because this is what we need, Every morning is a blank slate with an opportunity for change. We simply have to embrace hope.
Ask for Help
We are not alone. The more we isolate ourselves, the less we will realize it. There are other people in our exact situations that are hesitant to reach out. It’s not easy to put ourselves in vulnerable positions and expose the difficulties with which we struggle. However, we were not created to face life alone. God has given us friends, family and even strangers, whom He strategically places in our lives to support us. Even if they don’t understand what we are going through, they hope for us in the moments we cannot.
So, reach out to someone. Whether it be to pray, just to cry, or to exhale, someone will be there. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your personal difficulties with friends or family, reach out to a counselor. You will not be judged. You will be given a safe place to pour out all of your difficulties. You will find strength and–most importantly–hope.